The story of early childhood wounding is a glimpse into a tragic and painful dimension of being human. Even though our nature is made of goodness and love, due to our ignorance of that very nature, we perpetuate suffering for ourselves and the very people we love the most: our children.

In this way the cycle of ignorance is continued from generation to generation, and indeed all the warfare and strife we see in human society around the globe stems from this same cycle of ignorance of our nature of love. Yet our nature remains unchanged, and at the same time that we humans perpetuate our own suffering, we continually strive for happiness and reunion with our true self. And by shifting our view and with some wise guidance, we can find what we are looking for.

When people first encounter this knowledge of early childhood wounding, a common reaction is to feel a sense of hopelessness that they are basically condemned. Since we can’t go back and relive our childhood, it’s not uncommon to take the message of childhood wounding as a prison sentence to a life of frustration and anger.

However, there is a reason psychologists have dedicated so many years and so much energy to understanding our developmental patterns, and it isn’t to make us feel hopelessly trapped. The purpose is that by understanding how we arrived where we are now, it prepares us to move forward to a better future. By seeing clearly the patterns that made us who we are, we are better equipped to consciously shape who we become.

Indeed, a great danger lays in psychological and therapeutic approaches that dwell too much on sorting out the details of various childhood traumas. While it is definitely useful to be aware of one’s developmental history, it is an impediment to psychological growth if we become hung up in the past. We can’t heal the past by spending all our time dwelling there, endlessly trying to remember and sort out all the details of our history. Healing has to be now, in the present moment, with a positive vision to the future, if we hope to move forward in our growth.

Hence the purpose of this website. There are many methods and teachings to find our way forward, and you’ll find some of them here on wisdomangermanagement. For example one powerful way to move forward and recover our lost connection with our heart is to work directly with our body and our feelings through mindfulness meditation. This isn’t easy, because for a long time we have been keeping ourselves separated from these. Nonetheless the journey is doable, and if we persevere with gentleness and discipline, it’s possible to take possession of our life and find the joy we are seeking.

By Craig Mollins