Comments on: Shake Up Your Anger Pattern http://wisdomangermanagement.com/2009/09/shake-up-your-anger-pattern/ anger management and beyond Tue, 03 Aug 2010 07:07:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Craig http://wisdomangermanagement.com/2009/09/shake-up-your-anger-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-19 Craig Sat, 03 Oct 2009 17:14:15 +0000 http://upayanet.com/2009/09/how-fast-am-i-going/#comment-19 Thanks Trish. Yeah me too, being critical is a big one for me. It's a subtle form of aggression that puts a wall up, preventing me from really connecting with others. For me, underneath my criticism is fear. I'm afraid to just be there and relax with what I perceive as someone's 'difference' because somehow that difference' seems a threat to me. "They shouldn't be that way! I'm right, they're wrong. I'm better, they're screwed up..." Pretty heavy. Well, we have to be gentle with ourselves with these things. OK so I'm critical all the time. But I'm also trying to relax that and be open to others, day by day. And I'm gradually opening to, and softening the underlying fear in my heart. It's a pathway forward, and the journey starts right here and now. Thanks Trish. Yeah me too, being critical is a big one for me. It’s a subtle form of aggression that puts a wall up, preventing me from really connecting with others. For me, underneath my criticism is fear. I’m afraid to just be there and relax with what I perceive as someone’s ‘difference’ because somehow that difference’ seems a threat to me. “They shouldn’t be that way! I’m right, they’re wrong. I’m better, they’re screwed up…” Pretty heavy.

Well, we have to be gentle with ourselves with these things. OK so I’m critical all the time. But I’m also trying to relax that and be open to others, day by day. And I’m gradually opening to, and softening the underlying fear in my heart. It’s a pathway forward, and the journey starts right here and now.

]]> By: Trish Barbato http://wisdomangermanagement.com/2009/09/shake-up-your-anger-pattern/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Trish Barbato Fri, 02 Oct 2009 18:44:30 +0000 http://upayanet.com/2009/09/how-fast-am-i-going/#comment-17 I would say my style is criticism. Most of the time I don't even realize it. It just throws itself out into the conversation, making people feel inadequate or intimidated. Interesting... I would say my style is criticism. Most of the time I don’t even realize it. It just throws itself out into the conversation, making people feel inadequate or intimidated. Interesting…

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